Ann and I met our freshman year of college, and she hasn't changed that much! She is still gorgeous, opinionated, and spunky. Ann is also ambitious and fun-loving, so I was excited to watch her make the transition to motherhood because I knew she would find a way to balance work, family, and fun. Watching her blossom into a confident, caring, working Mom has been so awesome. Even more awesome is that Ann is willing to be candid about the tough parts of becoming a mother, and share her tips and tricks for how to navigate the transition. Here's what she has to say!
What’s your “getting pregnant” story?
We were lucky in that we had a very easy time getting pregnant. We decided we didn’t want to just pull the goalie; we wanted to plan the timing. Right before we went on a vacation, I went out and bought the Clearblue sticks because I thought I would be ovulating during our time away. I kept getting a sad face from the sticks, and then I realized I was calculating my cycle incorrectly. Once we got it right and tried when I was ovulating, it happened on the first try. You obviously don’t know right away if it worked. I remember we were going to the Whitney, and I wanted to have a drink at dinner afterward, but I knew I might be pregnant. So I bought a pregnancy test on the way to the Whitney and I took the test in the bathroom – that’s when I found out. I was really excited, but no drinks that night!
Maternity Clothes, Yay or Nay?
Pregnancy Style Philosophy?
I didn’t need maternity clothes for a while, but I needed some work clothes after a handful of months. I ended up buying a bunch of stuff, which in retrospect was silly. My favorite maternity retailers were Asos and Seraphine, which both had good work options. I also liked Ann Taylor Loft maternity, and some of the Rosie Pope items.
How were the first six weeks after you brought Vivi home?
I had a really difficult time. I had an amazing pregnancy, I worked out the whole nine months, and the birth was also easy. So I was totally unprepared for how difficult the next phase would be, particularly the sleeplessness. I didn’t realize how hard that would be, and I didn’t realize how much I would worry about everything. My husband, Jerry, didn’t get any paternity leave and he was working 12 to 14 hours a day, so I was alone all day. Babies aren’t doing much for those first six weeks, so it’s harder to power through the day because they just need to be held and fed. Once Vivi started smiling, that was a big change, and caring for her became more fun. After about six to eight weeks, I became much more comfortable and confident and things got a lot better. And then you completely forget how hard it was. I’m already excited for number two, which just shows how much you forget!
We use Alexa to play music and Vivi loves it and dances to it.
Style Transition – is there a change?
I’ve always been really casual on the weekend, so no change there. I think I actually get more dressed up for work, because I like to feel in control. I get more buttoned up than before.
Mom staple you couldn’t live without:
Favorite Digital Inspiration:
I style Vivi ten times better than I dress myself. She definitely wears hipster baby Brooklyn clothes. Comfort is very important. She wears a lot of neutrals, but I’m also not afraid to put her in cute, pink, girly stuff that I like and to put bows in her hair. Ultimately, comfort and mobility end up being the primary concern.
What’s the toughest part of your schedule?
The early morning is still really tough for me. I still haven’t adjusted to the fact that you can never sleep in.
What would make things easier? If you could change one thing about the support provided in the US, what would it be?
Paternity leave. I realized that maternity leave is truly just half the picture, because if you don’t have a spouse helping you, it’s so hard. And I was so lucky to have all the support that I did, with friends and family helping out, but it really does take two people. It gave me a whole new respect for single moms. The second thing that I think needs to change is the acceptance and perception of breastfeeding in this country. Even though I live in Brooklyn and it’s technically breastfeeding friendly, it’s not entirely comfortable to breastfeed publicly in the US. Since you need to feed every 1.5-2 hours, that really limits your ability to be out and about.
What’s been the best part?
There are so many good parts. There’s no joy that I’ve felt that’s close to the joy I get from Vivi. All your feelings are amplified; everything you feel for your child is intense, in such a good way. It’s a love you’ve never experienced before, even though that might sound cliché. And everything they learn to do in their life, like crawling and grabbing and laughing, it feels like you’re doing it for the first time. You’re watching your child learn to do all of these simple things that you took for granted before, and it’s an amazing feeling.